tackling stressful days

Fumble Recovery: Tips for Tackling Stressful Days

When I sit down to write an article, I want it to be from the heart. I don’t want to force the words to come.

Today’s article comes directly from my immediate experiences over the last week. It’s been incredibly stressful, so it was vital for me to tap into the tools I’ve learned over the years to manage that stress. The following three tips have helped me immensely in tackling the stressful days I have faced recently, and I hope they can benefit you when you experience stressful days of your own, as well:

Tips for Tackling Stressful Days

Give Yourself Grace

When you’re feeling overwhelmed or uninspired, it is easy to fall into the trap of being hard on yourself.  Having ADHD involves many notable symptoms, but one in particular, known as ADHD Paralysis, will sabotage my entire day if not handled properly. ADHD Paralysis involves having so much to do but no motivation to do it. When this happens, I become paralyzed by indecision and don’t know what to tackle first. I feel lazy but can’t seem to make myself move. 

Give yourself grace if you’ve experienced a similar feeling, whether you’ve been diagnosed with ADHD or not. I know that giving yourself grace sounds easier said than done. When you’re beating yourself up over a lack of productivity, try this:  Think of someone you love. You would extend grace to that person in a heartbeat. Now, extend that same grace to yourself.

Love yourself. Take a breath. Then move forward when you’re ready.

Surround Yourself with Positivity

The company you keep can significantly impact how you approach tackling stressful days. In my experience, like attracts like. If you’re in a foul mood, you might find that the music you’re listening to, the social media you’re reading and the people you’re connecting with reflect that mood. When this happens to me (and I happen to recognize it), I re-frame my outlook. 

The first step is to recognize what you’re feeling is to shift your outlook on a stressful, moody day. Once you do that, you can start to re-frame or do the opposite. Listen to upbeat music, seek out positive social media posts or call a friend who always puts a positive spin on things. Soon enough, you’ll find that these more positive elements start to seek you out. It’s the law of attraction!

Help Someone Else

Helping someone else when you’re feeling overwhelmed might sound counterproductive, but it’s not. Taking the time to do something for someone else will help you take your mind off what’s weighing you down. Helping others is also a mood booster. The feeling of satisfaction in helping others might be all you need to push forward in your own day. 

Being a help to another person can lessen those feelings of selfishness, laziness and moodiness contributing to the stress you’ve been experiencing. Once you’re being productive and accomplishing a task for someone else, you might feel ready to complete something on your to-do list. Plus, it just feels good to help others.

I hope these three tips for tackling stressful days can be as helpful to you as they have been to me. I notice that whenever I share on Twitter that I’m struggling, people relate. Having a supportive community has allowed me to share ideas, help others and – in turn – help myself. 


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